Would you date a guy who have gone to prostitutes before.. ?

[Mr Enigma]

You can read the complete blog post with comments here

We're not really sure why writer Andy Bodle decided to spill in print about his almost-$25,000 call girl habit (and we really don't get why he felt the need to eventually confess to his parents), but we're not particularly shocked to find out that an educated, seemingly normal guy frequented prostitutes.

After all, somebody is keeping that multimillion-dollar industry afloat, and we had a hunch it wasn't just Eliot Spitzer and Charlie Sheen.

In Bodle's case, his low self-esteem and relationship issues seem to have elevated his use into a full-fledged addiction, but what about those guys who have slept with prostitutes without managing to fritter away their life savings or delude themselves about where the relationship was going?

Find out why paying for sex isn't such a big deal after the jump.

According to the article, 1 in 10 men uses prostitutes, so odds are at least some of us are going out with these dudes whether we know it or not. The question is: Do you care? For my part, as long as the pay-for-play happened before we met and it wasn't an addiction or obsession, I'm fine with it, and hope my partner would feel comfortable being open about it.

While I agree that the prostitution industry can be degrading and oppressive, I don't think every guy who was lured in by its siren song is a bad person or a woman-hater. Paying for sex is almost a male rite of passage, and visiting a brothel in Amsterdam or sharing in bachelor party "festivities" as a bonding experience is more common than many women realize. If our culture was set up differently and the same opportunity was available to women in the same way, I think curiosity and an adventurous spirit probably would have led me to try it at least once.

In fact, I think I'd rather know that my partner paid for casual sex with a professional who fully understood the nature of the situation than find out he'd manipulated some unwitting girl's emotions just to fulfill his sexual urges. What do you think?

Would it bother you to find out your partner had a history of using escorts? What if he'd just tried it once or twice?

ps: I didn't write this post, am just sharing it will ya'll to see how you respond. I think I know the response but still..

[Priya]

perhaps not!!!
y???

because that just speaks of the guys low frustration tolerance levels as per me!
life holds way too many challenges in its due course of time & if one resorts to the easier way out or crumbles & gives up then i think i would consider him a loser & would not want to be associated with him! & also the thought of paying for sex just talks of whata low self esteem the person has!!!

but ofcourse this is a very judgemental view as the entire picture needs to be taken into consideration when passing a judgement as to what let him into submitting to a prostitute rather than takign charge of his life himself.... having said this the answer to ur query as per me would be a 'NO'

[jeshtha]

humm confusions!!!
I would say yes/no

no becoz it shows he just doesnt have control over his emotions he might repeat the same thing again if he is frustrated due to anything not justified to his then wife,paying just to get the physical satisfaction,for me he is a loser then

YES becoz everyone goes through such things what was the thing that led him to go into that direction???and morevr life has to move on,should we judge that person on that one particular incident/phase?

[jeshtha]

that means his life should ruin forever just bcoz of that particular phase?

[jeshtha]

u r being hypothetical lady not necessary

[Deepak Agarwal]

IT's all a question of OUR OWN and SOCEITY's MINDSET and CONDITIONING ...that makes many of us pre-judiced against prostitutes and pre-marital sex.
Some of us have grown out of this pre-judice to accept pre-marital sex in a relationship....but still there is whole lot of prejudice against sex (pre-marital or otherwise) outside off a relatiomship and prostitutes.

[Lavanya]

In fact, I think I'd rather know that my partner paid for casual sex with a professional who fully understood the nature of the situation than find out he'd manipulated some unwitting girl's emotions just to fulfill his sexual urges. What do you think?



Well...keeping in mind what has been said in the above lines...I would maybe date him....but then if this person's persona seemed to be liked by me and keeping in mind that all make mistakes ....some accept it openly while some bury it as a deep dark secret...I would continue dating him....not just for the fact that I like him but only if I find that he thinks similar to me......

My answer to that question would be YES.....squarely for the fact that SEX is not the only thing in any relationship...it is just one of the other factors....

[Priya]

hey Rex i beg to differ on ur view... as SEX is not as frivolous as u make it seem u know.. as its consequences results in a new life... a new individual... a revolution in itself.. & this needs to be taken lots more seriously than just a way of venting out ones frustrations!!!

[jeshtha]

completely agree with u priya
mind u rex that msg of urs was very obnoxious on that way every man is a gigolo/keep?

or for you the intimacy a married couple share is same as those dirty self-satisfying filthy relation of a man with the prostitute?Gosh

[Lavanya]

....BTW what is being happily married?????? would you care explain??

[Lavanya]

Do you think that defines the happiness of a marriage...just a non invasive husband who respects his wife in every sense?????.....and BTW just because am married does not in any way mean I know the sutras of a good marriage.....to err and to learn and to understand...makes life worthwhile whether married or unmarried!!!!

[Amrita]

@ REX

If a husband coerces his wife to have sex with him even if the wife is unwilling,...... this does not make the wife a prostitute....
this makes the husband a rapist!

[Lavanya]

Ummmmmmmmmmmm....REX....thats derogatory to every woman....well you being a woman to you too.....So question is , do you consider yourself to be a prostitute too?????....I know it is a belief that a woman takes many roles ...even that of a prostitute.....but then it does not ever brand her to be one....which you seem to have.....and ma'am...there is a lot of difference between paid sex and sex as in a relationship....its like your heart beating...and a Heart-Lung machine working for you to live.....