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Would you date a guy who have gone to prostitutes before.. ?
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We're not really sure why writer Andy Bodle decided to spill in print about his almost-$25,000 call girl habit (and we really don't get why he felt the need to eventually confess to his parents), but we're not particularly shocked to find out that an educated, seemingly normal guy frequented prostitutes.
After all, somebody is keeping that multimillion-dollar industry afloat, and we had a hunch it wasn't just Eliot Spitzer and Charlie Sheen.
In Bodle's case, his low self-esteem and relationship issues seem to have elevated his use into a full-fledged addiction, but what about those guys who have slept with prostitutes without managing to fritter away their life savings or delude themselves about where the relationship was going?
Find out why paying for sex isn't such a big deal after the jump.
According to the article, 1 in 10 men uses prostitutes, so odds are at least some of us are going out with these dudes whether we know it or not. The question is: Do you care? For my part, as long as the pay-for-play happened before we met and it wasn't an addiction or obsession, I'm fine with it, and hope my partner would feel comfortable being open about it.
While I agree that the prostitution industry can be degrading and oppressive, I don't think every guy who was lured in by its siren song is a bad person or a woman-hater. Paying for sex is almost a male rite of passage, and visiting a brothel in Amsterdam or sharing in bachelor party "festivities" as a bonding experience is more common than many women realize. If our culture was set up differently and the same opportunity was available to women in the same way, I think curiosity and an adventurous spirit probably would have led me to try it at least once.
In fact, I think I'd rather know that my partner paid for casual sex with a professional who fully understood the nature of the situation than find out he'd manipulated some unwitting girl's emotions just to fulfill his sexual urges. What do you think?
Would it bother you to find out your partner had a history of using escorts? What if he'd just tried it once or twice?
ps: I didn't write this post, am just sharing it will ya'll to see how you respond. I think I know the response but still..
We're not really sure why writer Andy Bodle decided to spill in print about his almost-$25,000 call girl habit (and we really don't get why he felt the need to eventually confess to his parents), but we're not particularly shocked to find out that an educated, seemingly normal guy frequented prostitutes.
After all, somebody is keeping that multimillion-dollar industry afloat, and we had a hunch it wasn't just Eliot Spitzer and Charlie Sheen.
In Bodle's case, his low self-esteem and relationship issues seem to have elevated his use into a full-fledged addiction, but what about those guys who have slept with prostitutes without managing to fritter away their life savings or delude themselves about where the relationship was going?
Find out why paying for sex isn't such a big deal after the jump.
According to the article, 1 in 10 men uses prostitutes, so odds are at least some of us are going out with these dudes whether we know it or not. The question is: Do you care? For my part, as long as the pay-for-play happened before we met and it wasn't an addiction or obsession, I'm fine with it, and hope my partner would feel comfortable being open about it.
While I agree that the prostitution industry can be degrading and oppressive, I don't think every guy who was lured in by its siren song is a bad person or a woman-hater. Paying for sex is almost a male rite of passage, and visiting a brothel in Amsterdam or sharing in bachelor party "festivities" as a bonding experience is more common than many women realize. If our culture was set up differently and the same opportunity was available to women in the same way, I think curiosity and an adventurous spirit probably would have led me to try it at least once.
In fact, I think I'd rather know that my partner paid for casual sex with a professional who fully understood the nature of the situation than find out he'd manipulated some unwitting girl's emotions just to fulfill his sexual urges. What do you think?
Would it bother you to find out your partner had a history of using escorts? What if he'd just tried it once or twice?
ps: I didn't write this post, am just sharing it will ya'll to see how you respond. I think I know the response but still..
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Permalink Reply by Chandni:The Queen Of Heaven on -
Yupzz why not???dating is not that a big deal....but can you "marry" a guy who has visited a prostitute??? thats more of an imbroglio situation....there too I would say..."Yes".....sex is just ur physical requirements and one should not make big deal outta that....life doesnt end there....
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Permalink Reply by ashwin on -
chandni kudos for that reply and also lavanya jeshtha and ruchi,3 cheers for the 4 gems
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Permalink Reply by Deepak Agarwal on
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Well I think this needs to looked from 2 different perspectives, depending on your own Mindsets/ Conditioning :
1) For those who think that Sex is acceptable only in a Love relationship (whether marriage or outside it)......and
2) For those who accept that Sex is a Body need....and those who aren't in a Love relationship also have this need.....
.....and Three Cheers to Lavanya, Ruchi and Chandni...for their respective opinions.....!!!!!
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Permalink Reply by sruthi-the rhythm on -
hmmm..im a lil confused here.. i guess i wont..but point is if da guy tells me that he has..den he is being genuine enuf to tell me himself..then i might still thnk bout him..but if he doesnt then its a sure shot NO.. but in both cases i would rather prefer a no..reason: im scared of sexually transmitted diseases..more than the guy..its the health n well-being one needs to take care off..n its high time girls take initiative of doing soo..
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